Its over and I'm sick of everybody's negative opinion….please help!?
my fiance and i ended the relationship becuz i finally realized that he never had any intentions on marrying me anytime soon. this was over two weeks ago. the problem is, is that we have two daughters together. in t he past two weeks he’s seen them 3 maybe 4 times.
im ticked becuz he’s saddled me with the responsibility of taking care of them on my own while he’s out partying and living with his friend. our youngest child was sick and he was in the club celebrating the kentucky derby!
my family of course chimes in with their opinions. my mom said that she would help me but i would have to be done with him and that’s not something that im willing to consent to becuz i still love him with all my heart and her help shouldn’t come with any conditions. his family doesn’t even care they don’t come over to see our kids like i think they should. they pretend to be so busy and that hurts my feelings.
to add insult to injury im pregnant with our 3rd child and he’s being a jerk about
it and we haven’t talked since tuesday. i’ve seriously texted him about 200 times since then. his mother says that he’s grown, which he is 26 and she can’t do anything but tell him to call.
my mom of course is sitting back happy that this is going on because it makes me more dependent on her. my employer is about to fire me because i’ve been off work for the last two weeks and i’ve been doing last minute call ins.
my question is i love him and things are going to hell in a handbasket. i want him back but i know that he’s not going to come back unless i consent to his conditions which im not willing to do becuz he’s going to want me to get an abortion. im at my witts end and i’m frustrated. what should i do? my bills are piling up and my fuse is short.
listen to my mother and let her gloat and run my life? im 22, with a very good job and i’ve just graduated college. that is what she wants to do and she’s just going to do it for monetary reasons not because she wants to help me.
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July 23rd, 2010 at 11:50 am
Honey, I know it hurts but you have to move on. Any man that has 3 children with a women and doesn’t marry her his not a real man or Dad for that matter. Trust me as a parent your Mom is not enjoying this. Just sit back and think about your own children and would you want your girls to go through this? Are you being a good role model for your girls? Shacking up with a guy is not good example. Just get your child support for them so it can pay for their childcare and you can get back to work. Go to the website below to get free child support collection
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:50 am
Liisten to your mother and do whatever she says. The fact that you sent >200 text messages is a sign that you are out of control and need your mom no matter what her conditions are. Your children are more important than whether you and this loser are fighting.
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:50 am
You may love him but it is very obvious that he does not feel the same. If it were me, I would take him to court for child support so that your children will be taken care of. You also really need to try your hardest to get the job thing back on track because you are on your own now. You can also apply for assistance (it is meant for people going through what you are). It does not feel to you right now, but you CAN make it. I made it and now I am with the most wonderful man in the world. You need to start taking care of you and your children. He will regret his decision one day. You just dont need a man like that in your life. Good luck, sweetie!
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:50 am
Girl….never think that having a baby intitles you to support by a boyfriend/fiancee…..Marriage is the only way to insure support when you split up and then it is not always the amount you need to take care of kids. You birth them and you will always be responsible for them. Be thankful you have good job that pays well. Seek counseling for your co-dependency and choosing loosers. Let your Mom help you and look for a healthy relationship. Remember we are responsible for ourselves. You are young. Keep looking.